A heartbreak is similar to an earthquake that trembles over everything you were familiar with. It breaks the basis of what you thought yourself to be.
I did not write Love That Was Meant for Me out of perfection. I was writing out of the depths of my personal healing. Being a Licensed Relationship coach, and a trauma therapy practitioner, I have guided people through love, loss, and reuniting – in New York City and in Mumbai.
Once the pain ceases, this is not the beginning of healing. It starts as you gaze into your broken heart and say to it, You have no right to belong to me any more.
That is what my book is all about – how to come up, restore, and get back to you.
In Love Breaks, Truth Emerges
In all heartbreaks, there is something more. It is not how they left but who you were when they left.
Heartbreak is a reflection that I have observed in CBT couples counseling services. It portrays your limitations, your self-esteem, and your needs that are not satisfied.
Initially, the agony eats it all up. You reread the conversations and ask yourself what went amiss. However, gradually you understand that heartbreak does not ruin you but it brings you to yourself.
Sitting with the Pain, Not Running with It
We often rush healing. Society instructs us to erase photos, change the subject and move on.
However, in trauma therapy I have observed that emotions will not disappear when ignored. They just wait till it becomes quiet again.
Cessation of running begins the healing process. Sit with your pain. Listen to what it wants to educate you. Pain is your friend not your foe; it is the finest teller of truths.
You are no longer afraid of your feelings when you confront them rather than putting them aside. Therein lies the hope of change.
Finding the Self You Forgot
Heartbreak is much revealing of what you lost. You lose the happiness, originality, and serenity that prevailed before we made a lot of everything.
In Love That Was Meant for Me, I provide reflection practices to make the readers re-enter their individuality.
In my practice using CBT couples counseling services, I make people remember that a relationship is not meant to obliterate you but to grow you.
You find that when you find yourself without the other you find you are healed not because you forget the other person – but because you are reminded of yourself.
Forgiveness Is Freedom
Forgiveness isn’t approval. It’s released.
By being resentful, you also are providing your past with the power that it does not merit.
Being the best marriage counselor, I have taught people that forgiveness is not something you should give the other person, but rather one should be free.
Forgiveness happens slowly. Some days, you feel peace. On other men, you are dragged back into anger. But every parting leaves you without another part.
Forgiveness says, You wounded me, but I will not always have it.
Getting Back the Pleasure and Confidence
Having been heartbroken, people lose their sense of pleasure. They are afraid of being victims. Yet thy body would fain be alive.
Being an online relationship coach, I educate my clients on the fact that pleasure is not merely physical, but also emotional. It is a sun on your face, laughing with the sun or enjoying your morning coffee.
I assist the clients to reestablish their connection with their senses in relationship therapy in India and in other countries. They start dressing to themselves, smiling more, moving freely once again.
That is what self-love is – happiness that does not need any other one.
Healing Through Connection
It does not require healing to take place in solitude. Healthy relationships will come to be places of healing.
During my years of providing CBT couples counseling services, I have witnessed how fresh bonds (formed by the respect) rekindle trust in love.
Parties that were avoiding intimacy begin talking. They come out knowing and not in fear.
There is no dependency in healing with others – it is community. You can be complete and even permit yourself to be grasped.
The Unspoken Power of Self-Love
One day you wake up and you find that you are laughing. The ache has softened.
That is when you have gone home to yourself. Constant validation is no longer necessary to you. You enjoy your own company.
Self-acceptance, which the best couple therapy in the USA proves, is the key to emotional health.
When you admire yourself you bring in partners who admire that power.
Love starts to be non-performance based, rather than peaceful.
Heartbreak Can Grow You
All the heartbreaks I have experienced have turned the process of developing into my direction. Both of the endings had been lessons on limits, existence, and hope.
Love That Was Meant for Me would never exist without those breaks.
The results of my visit with clients all over the world are similar. They find heartbreak is not an end but a progression.It challenges you to emotional lucidity and closeness to your truth.
Impression: The Art of Beginning Again
Healing does not imply eliminating the past. It is forgetting it without suffering.
When you are standing in rubble of what was, remember this: you are not shattered. You are rebuilding.
I wrote my book, Love That Was Meant for Me, to you, to help you out of grief towards completeness.
I provide online relationship counseling services and therapy in India services as an online therapist and CBT couples counseling services provider in India to clients worldwide.
We will also assist you to find love not in another person but in yourself. Get more thoughts and healing resources and talk about emotional intimacy and empowerment with me on Instagram and on Youtube.
