Have you ever said something during an argument and regretted it minutes later? Or found yourself shutting down, becoming defensive, or feeling overwhelmed when a partner raises a sensitive issue?
Strong emotions are a normal part of close relationships. The challenge is not avoiding anger, hurt, disappointment, or fear. It is learning how to experience…
Have you ever wondered why some people seem comfortable with intimacy while others constantly fear being abandoned? Or why certain relationships feel secure, while others become a cycle of conflict, distance, or misunderstanding?
The answer often lies in attachment styles the emotional patterns we develop early in life that continue to shape how we connect…
You met the right person on paper.
Same values. Same city. Similar career trajectory. He says all the things a thoughtful partner says. Friends approve. Your mother approves. And yet, six or eight months in, you find yourself sitting across from him at dinner wondering why the closeness has not deepened the way you expected.…
It is 10:47 PM. You meant to bring up one small thing.
Twenty minutes later, neither of you is talking about the small thing anymore. You are talking about that time three months ago. He is talking about your tone. You are talking about his sigh. The dishes you noticed an hour ago are still…
You can hold a team. You can hold a deadline. You can hold your mother's anxiety, your friend's breakup, your sister's small child while she takes a phone call.
But, when a partner tries to hold you, you go stiff. You laugh it off. You pull back to your desk. You make a joke. You…
In New York City, relationships move quickly. Careers accelerate. Social circles expand. Dating apps create endless options. But when trust breaks, everything slows down.
I have worked with clients across NYC and the USA who describe betrayal as a moment where time split into “before” and “after.” Before the discovery. After the discovery. Before the…
In New York City, relationships begin quickly.
Chemistry sparks over coffee in SoHo. Conversations stretch past midnight in the West Village. Everything feels new — until it doesn’t.
Then one day, a familiar thought appears:
“Why does this always happen to me?”
Different partner. Same ending.
As someone who provides Relationship therapy and Trauma therapy…
My name is Shalini Chuganee, an Influential Woman, and I recently wrote about betrayal for Mumbai Mirror, a piece that sparked powerful conversations far beyond India, including with many of my clients in New York City. In a world obsessed with headlines, gossip, and social-media debates about “who cheated on whom,” I want to take…
My name is Shalini Chuganee, an Influential Woman, and I recently wrote about betrayal for Mumbai Mirror, a piece that sparked powerful conversations far beyond India, including with many of my clients in New York City. In a world obsessed with headlines, gossip, and social-media debates about “who cheated on whom,” I want to take…
